Let’s Take a Closer Look at What it means to Value the Vows
Simply stated you value the vows when you put great worth in your promise to God and your spouse. We’re talking about wedding vows, of course.
The word vows has been used to signify deals made with gods in return for favors. It’s also used for promises to our God as in vows of silence or celibacy and vows of service. The value of the wedding vows increases when we realize they’re vows made to God to keep the promises to our spouse. The wedding vow is often mistaken as a vow between spouses only. The big picture is the promise we’re making to God.
What Exactly is a Vow?
A vow is a solemn promise or assertion by which a person is bound to an act, service, or condition according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary at http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/vow.
Common synonyms are oath, pledge, promise, and word. Related words are appointment, arrangement, commitment, engagement, obligation, agreement, pact, contract, covenant, assurance, and guarantee. There are others but you get the picture.
Some examples of the current use of the word vow:
- The monks take a vow of silence.
- The bride and groom exchanged vows.
- The mayor made a vow to reduce crime.
I found the origin interesting. The word euchesthai in Greek is used for both pray and vow. The Sanskrit word vaghat is used for vow and sacrificer. If we will pray for our husbands and our marriages, the God we made our vow to will surely help us to keep that vow. Sacrifice is another way to keep your promise to another person by putting his needs ahead of yours. What a beautiful picture of promise, prayer and sacrifice.
What Does it Mean to Value?
There’s the monetary definition of value, which is about comparing worth or importance of something. We want to investigate the other meaning like to consider or rate highly as in values your opinion. Even better is to hold dear or to think that something or someone is important or useful.
The origin of value is from Middle English meaning worth and high quality and from the Vulgar Latin word valēre to be of worth and to be strong.
Some examples of the current use of the word value:
- She values the time she spends with her family.
- The items are highly valued by collectors.
- The herbs are valued for their medicinal properties.
- a nation that values individualism and self-reliance
Synonyms like appreciate, cherish, prize, and treasure help paint the picture of value. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/value goes further to list related words such as delight in, fancy, enjoy, relish, revel in, admire, esteem, respect, revere, reverence, venerate, adore, idolize, and worship. I left some out but it is clear that to value the vows is to hold them very dear. There’s no stronger vow than a vow made to God.
Why is it important that we make the vow to God?
God keeps His promises. I know sometimes it feels like He doesn’t but we don’t always see the big picture and He promises everything will work to our good in the end.
First, unlike humans, God doesn’t feel the need to lie. He has the power to make, and keep His promises.
Secondly, God is never changing and consistent. He’s the same yesterday, today, and forever.
Thirdly, God keeps His word. He’ll always do what He said He would do.
God is our pattern for living. We’re all trying to follow Jesus’ example. When we make a vow to God, as a believer, not only does it have more weight but also God will help us keep it. The value of the wedding vows is much more than a legal contract between two people. It’s a sacred vow to God that we’ll keep our promises to our spouse.
Value the vows you make to your partner“I promise” gives assurance when it is backed by action. Click To Tweet
When you promise something to a child, he believes you’ll do it. As long as you fulfill your promises, he’ll continue to believe you’ll do it. If you begin to fail in keeping your promises, it isn’t long before the child no longer believes your promises will be fulfilled.
The phrase “I promise” gives assurance that all will be well as long as past promises have been upheld. In a marriage, even small daily breaking of promises erodes the value of the vows that were made.
Value is a verb. A verb is a word of action. Every action you take in your marriage will increase or decrease the value of your vows to your spouse and to yourself. Click To Tweet
Every action you take in your marriage will increase or decrease the value of your vows to your spouse and to yourself. It’s more than staying put in your marriage for the long haul. It’s about integrity and not sabotaging the value of your marriage. The value of the wedding vows you made will affect your loyalty to your marriage partner in the everyday as well.
The first step is to make your vows. Be sure you know what you’re promising. Be sure you know who you’re making the promises to. Next, be sure to keep the promises you make everyday. Keep the small promises as well as the big wedding vows to keep the value of the vows. Honor God by remembering your vows are made to Him. For more reasons and ways to value the vows, download and read Make, Keep, and Honor the Vows, How to be Fully Committed to Your Marriage.
Many ceremonies today don’t involve God or mention Him without any understanding of who He is. Some of these marriages last and are even happy but they don’t glorify God. In Make, Keep and Honor the Vows you’ll read why a marriage consecrated by God and lived for God has a better chance of not only lasting but being a beautiful and fulfilling partnership as designed by God. A better chance at becoming a Magnificent Marriage.
Anniversaries are a great time to review your vows every year and some even do a vow renewal ceremony for the major anniversaries. Are you in need of a renewal in your promise-keeping? Check out ideas for making your anniversary a special time to value the vows you made.
We’re all human and need help to keep our marriages strong and healthy. Do you keep God in your marriage daily? Do you ask God and your spouse for forgiveness when you break your word? It’s not always easy. Life can get in the way and you have to work at doing all you’ve promised.
I married a man of great integrity and I trust his promises even if it takes some time to fulfill them. He doesn’t understand how people can break their promises and often feels very let down. I‘m sure I’ve let him down at times and I hope he knows I’m doing my best. He knows I value the vows I made before God and him but I want him to know I value “him” by keeping them every day.
Has the trust of “I promise” been broken? Do you keep all of your promises, even the small ones? Can your spouse count on your word to become action?