You Spend Time with the Ones you Love
Do you spend enough time with God?
Do you spend enough time with your spouse?
If you love someone you devote time to learning about them and getting to know them.
The biggest obstacle women report for spending time with God in daily devotions is not enough time.
It’s also the biggest complaint of women with children and career when trying to find quality time with their spouse.
Are You Having Trouble Making Time for Regular Devotions
Quiet time while young children are napping doesn’t solve both problems. Career women find very little time left in the evening for themselves let alone God or spouses. At the end of the day, most women just want to fall into bed.
I find if I really mean business in finding regular time to spend with God, it needs to be first in my day. If I wait till any other time, something will always interfere and I never get to my planned devotion.
Getting up 15 minutes to 30 minutes earlier may sound brutal. I know you’re tired. However, time with God always starts my day on the right note and I have an extra bit of energy. I know He’s honouring my commitment to Him.
It may be even harder to ask your husband to get up with you but it’s worth asking. He may be finding it difficult to be consistent in his own devotions.
Spiritual Growth Comes from Spending time With God
Daily devotions for couples was our solution. It helped us to get each other out of bed a bit earlier. Sometimes he had to coax me out from under the covers and sometimes he was the one suffering from inertia. Now that we’ve been doing our devotions together for years, it is just automatic.
Setting aside time for God is a discipline with great rewards. It wasn’t easy to discipline ourselves in the beginning.
Two of the best reasons to spend time on Daily Devotions as a couple:
- Spiritual growth for both of you
- Quality time with your husband
What Do You Do for Devotions?
We like to read the Bible aloud. We’ve taken turns chapter by chapter through the Bible. We’ve listened to the Bible on audio. We’ve been through a few different translations.
One time we read a New Century Version Bible edited by Max Lucado with devotions on each page by different authors that went with the scripture on the page. It took longer but was really interesting.
Sometimes we find other books to add to our devotions. We’ve been through studies on Books of the Bible or topics throughout the Bible. We’ve also found some Daily Devotions for couples. We’ve also read books aloud together on marriage building.
Some of our favourites were:
- 15 Minute Devotions for Couples by Bob and Emilie Barnes
- Daily Marriage Builders for Couples by Fred and Florence Littauer
- The Resolution for Men and the Resolution for Women from the movie Courageous. For study material visit www.Iamcourageous.com.
- The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman with a find your language quiz and study guides at www.fivelovelanguages.com
- Life Overflowing by T.D. Jakes is 6 Pillars for Abundant Living from Ephesians.
- And many more that are available at local book stores or online.
On weekends and holidays we find ourselves taking a little more time to discuss what we’re learning or we may use the time for some of the difficult communication that is necessary for a healthy relationship.
We’ve found devotions and studies on tough topics like finances and health. The Scriptures cover every aspect of our everyday life as well as our spiritual and moral character and how we relate to the world.
Praying Together is an Important part of a Christian Marriage
We finish our time with God and each other with prayer. We like to hold hands before God and pray for each other and for the needs of the day. The reading and study will often be on our hearts and we also pray for the needs of others we are aware of. We also thank God for answers to our prayers.
Gratitude and recognizing blessings is important. Our day is now off to a great start.
We have our rough times as any couple will but it’s easier to remember to turn to God if you’re used to talking to Him regularly.
If you’ve been having a difficult time fitting Daily Devotions into your life, try first thing in the morning before the family is up and you’re running to get them ready for their days.
To make your devotions even more valuable, ask your spouse to join you. It’s great when he takes the lead and finds studies that interest him. Go to the bookstore or surf online together for study aids.
Time is your most valuable resource. Spend it with God, your husband and in the Scriptures. The reward is spiritual growth and intimacy with God and your spouse.
How do you find the time for your Daily Devotions? How do you find time to spend with your spouse every day? Let us know in the comments.